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Is Divorce Ever Really Over?

It’s been 2.5 years since my marriage imploded. 1.5 since the divorce was final. During the first year, my email inbox was a ticking time bomb. I never knew when there would be a ranting, raging email from my ex about how everything was my fault, how I never loved him.  In the last six

Why the Double Standard?

I don’t understand why genders differ so much in their approach to sex. Men, particularly those looking for a casual encounter through a dating app, seem to think that any woman would be glad to have the chance to be with them. That there’s no need for stimulation beforehand, either intellectual or emotional. And yet,

dating after 40

Oh No. Not Again.

  Dating after 40 (and everything that led up to being single again at this point) sucks. We’re an underserved market: much of the dating advice online and in books focuses on the fresh, new 20something who doesn’t yet know the heartache that accompanies love (and sometimes marriage). We’ve had our bodies stretched by age,